Now I’m not saying that when a stranger tells me I look good it is not a great feeling. I think when you’re in a relationship where a person thinks you look great, when really you look like a scary troll on that day, you may start to think that they are just saying it or that they have to say it. So when a complete stranger who owes you no complements and doesn’t have to deal with you at home stops you on the street to compliment you it’s a great feeling.
But that is not the kind of attention I’m talking about, when someone catcalls you, it’s not because you went after them for it. What I’m talking about, is when someone is in a relationship and doesn’t feel they’re getting what they need so they look elsewhere. Believe me this does not resolve or help the situation. You may feel good in the moment that you went and solicited attention from someone else. But when you really get down to it that feeling won’t last and you’re still left in that same situation, with maybe a little friend tagging along called guilt.